War Between Genders: A Father’s Love
A lot is being put on the shoulders of Barack Obama right now. He needs to fix the financial crisis, bring peace and stability to the Middle East and rectify the image of Americans while also not putting a darker stain on African Americans (all those who want him to claim his white half will quickly clam up if he falls too hard). He has to be a role model for African Americans and a good example of what an African American is for the rest of the country.
That is a lot to do with just 24 hours in a day.
And one of his most important jobs is that of father to Malia and Sasha.
Recently in a public letter to this two daughters he expressed his hopes and dreams for them and every other child in America.
When I was a young man, I thought life was all about me—about how I’d make my way in the world, become successful, and get the things I want. But then the two of you came into my world with all your curiosity and mischief and those smiles that never fail to fill my heart and light up my day. And suddenly, all my big plans for myself didn’t seem so important anymore. I soon found that the greatest joy in my life was the joy I saw in yours. And I realized that my own life wouldn’t count for much unless I was able to ensure that you had every opportunity for happiness and fulfillment in yours. In the end, girls, that’s why I ran for President: because of what I want for you and for every child in this nation.
The lack of fathers in Black households is one of the saddest things that has hit the Black community in the last 30 years. Fathers are the measuring stick for children; for sons who they can become and for daughters what they should search for in a man. The lack of fathers have left young men and women bereft and soul searching.
There are black fathers out there who are doing what they need to do to make sure their family stays afloat. There aren’t too many raps or ballads about them, but often good black fathers don’t mind taking the backseat to good black mothers. It’s what I thought about when I watched the news last week and saw Dana Canedy, a New York Times Editor, talking about her new book, A Journal for Jordan: A Story of Love and Honor. The story was written by Canedy’s fiance while he was serving over in Iraq to his son that he feared he wouldn’t get a chance to see grow up. He didn’t. First Sgt. Charles Monroe King was killed in October 2007 in Baghdad. In the book Sgt King wrote down everything he wanted his son to know and what he expects of him.
Never be ashamed to cry. No man is too good to get on his knee and humble himself to God. Follow your heart and look for the strength of a woman.
It’s not fair to judge someone by the color of their skin, where they’re raised or their religious beliefs. Appreciate people for who they are and learn from their differences.Things may not always be easy or pleasant for you, that’s life, but always pay your respects for the way people lived and what they stood for. It’s the honorable thing to do.