Feeling Froggy?: Take a Jump at Love
We ran into my friend Mike at the grocery store the other day. He runs daily horoscopes on twitter and has a moderate following. I asked him how business was going and he said great.
“Really?” I was honestly surprised; horocopes and fortune telling were all the rage at the end of last decade and the beginning of this one but around 2003 it seemed to drop off. “People are into that again?”
“Yeah,” he said. “It’s because of the down economy. With things uncertain people want to look for answers; mostly people want to know about money and love.”
That sounds about right, Americans are always on the quest for either money or love. The main character Tiana in Disney’s new movie “The Princess and the Frog” was so consumed with money for her restaurant that real happiness came in the form of family and love. On the day after it opened I took my two nieces, four and five, to see the film. They laughed at the jokes, danced to the music and didn’t seem to notice that Tiana spent a good portion of the movie as a frog. I was glad to take them to a movie that I feel showed off the strengths of black womanhood: hardworking and caring. But film also depicted Tiana as so myopic that fun and love are foreign to her. Are we really like that?
Well, yeah a lot of us are. As evidenced by a new book soon to be made into a movie “Bitch Is the New Black: . . . And No One Wears It Better Than Me” by Helena Andrews being a black princess in search of your ebony prince is hard.
“For a lot of black women, especially young successful black women, we have a lot of boxes on our master plan list checked off,” Andrews says. “We think happiness should come immediately after that. But that is not always the case.”
In reading the article I wondered, why couldn’t it. Was it because the women were too focused on the color of the man? Was it the lack of available good men that came their way?
Determined to decrease the number of educated, unattached black women a group of ladies started, Black American Brides. Similar to other introduction services and websites, Black American Brides is a matchmaking service for men who are in search of the black woman of their dreams. Their opening page reads:
Black American Brides is the World’s only Interracial and International Introduction service exclusively featuring black American women. We have 20 years of combined experience and are very well-respected in the industry! We have selected lovely, sincere black American women from various backgrounds as potential mates for our male clients.
Black American Brides can introduce you to a woman who is ready to be a loving wife to a deserving man in America, Canada, Europe, Australia or Asia.Â Meeting online can result in a wonderful relationship and subsequent marriage and family. As we are constantly adding new applicants to our numerous profiles and photos, you wil find many of the beautiful women on our site educated and polished in the style of Michelle Obama. However, we also present women who are laid back in the style of Whoopi Goldberg. All are lovely and ready for marriage!
The group of women who began the group are not just proponents of women of dating outside their colorline, but for making intelligent decisions in finding mates.
Which can definitely come in handy. We can’t all be turned into frogs to see what is the most important thing.