It’s not my intention to have a post with Chris Brown so soon after the last one.
But, I had to put this video up. And all those not on Team Breezy are happy to see him take a punch to the jaw, even if it’s fictional.
In the brief trailer it seems that dance instructors Derek (Josh Holloway) and Dante (Laz Alonzo) aren’t happy that Korea is whooping us in dancing.
Before anyone starts to get excited it’s not North Korea. I doubt they have enough energy to get a good two-step going. It’s South Korea, who have swept the floor with us lately in international Hip Hop dancing competitions. Reason why: those crews can move.
Don’t worry; I don’t expect this movie to take any swipes at South Korea since the director is Korean American Benson Lee. Lee’s previous film includes Planet B-boy which is a documentary about the international Hip Hop dance competition. If you are a fan of the dance style and haven’t seen it you should go get this movie. Actually, if you aren’t a fan of the Hip Hop dance you should watch this movie, you will change your mind after viewing the athleticism and creativity of the dancers.
So are you excited about the movie? What do you think?
Today, Will and Jaden Smith joined rapper Jay Park to announce that he was chosen to sing the ending song for the new Smith SciFi movie, After Earth.
Jay Park is a former member of the KPop group, 2pm. Since leaving the group he has released several solo albums and mixtapes.
SciFi nerds, like myself, have been awaiting this movie for a while now. Although he’s just singing the song “I Like to Party” as the end credits roll and people leave the theater, this is a big opportunity for more people to hear Park’s music.
My daughter and I spied them at the same time.
We were just leaving the Nike store when I saw the diminutive female. She was fair skinned (black) with her hair in Shirley Temple curls although she looked years past the age for that hair style to be acceptable. Actually, if you aren’t Shirley Temple at 6 years old I don’t see why anyone would be wearing that hair style. She held one shirt in her hands as she walked to the cash register, the other shirt against the front of her body, as if she wanted to show everyone that it was perfect for her.
Trailing behind her was an older, heavier white male who seemed to be more than twice her age. His wallet in his right hand, his left pulling out cash.
Cricket and I walked out the store looking at each other.
“That couple–” I begin.
“Yeah, that was just weird,” Cricket finished.
“Maybe that was her father?”
“No. I don’t think so,” Cricket said. “She didn’t seem like she’d be dressed that way around her dad. Or maybe we are just conservative. Maybe it was a big brother, little sister situation where the big brother is a geriatric man and a young lady who seems like she’d be past the age of needing a parental mentor.”
“Yeeeahhhh,” I say doubtfully before voicing what I really think. “It could be a –”
“I need to get a,” Cricket inserts as we finish at the same time.
“Like, the other BW/WM couple didn’t seem that odd.”
“It was the age,” Cricket said. ”Being the same age normalizes it.”
“Besides the fact they were impossibly tall and cute.”
I thought about this “couple” (?) as I watched the documentary “Seeking Asian Female” PBS’ Independent Lens. From newbie director, Debbie Lum, the film follows the relationship of Steven and Sandy. Steven is a twice divorced 50+ white male with Asian fever. He admits that he doesn’t have much money, he’s not much to look at, and is looking for a woman on the submissive side. While on AsianFriend finder he scrolls through pictures of available women in China and exclaims, “They are all so beautful!”
Sandy is a tenacious, intelligent 30 year old Chinese woman. She comes to stay with Steven while on a 30 day fiancee Visa and has to decide at the end of the time whether to marry him.
I have to admit that I was not rooting for them to work out. In the beginning we are unsure of Sandy’s intentions but we soon find out that Sandy really does love him. The qualms I did have was the problems they had communicating. After all of that time of being a Sinophile and fawning over Asian women Steven didn’t attempt to learn Mandarin or Cantonese. (Although I have to admit that trying to learn Korean is pretty hard for English speakers.) But having the communication wall brought in another dimension: the director was often recruited to translate and mediate their arguments. As you can expect the fantasy of someone often violently clashes with the reality of the actual person.
Steven comes off as entitled and clueless. When asked what he thought Sandy got out of being with him he said coming to this country.
Maybe it’s the Western frame of mind. Just this morning I ran across a link to this blog where a young American woman who is married to a Chinese male ruminates along these lines.
The “Charisma Man” phenomenon across Asia that foreign men experience makes them feel as if they are the next Brad Pitt. Meanwhile, foreign women — especially white women — are often showered with compliments about their appearance (something I experienced once in a beauty salon). And overall the fact that China still believes “foreign is better” means that foreigners of all genders — especially white foreigners — feel as if they’re standing on a pedestal compared to the locals. So then it’s easy to think, “hey, these people aren’t my equals because I’m clearly above them.” And that somehow translates into the idea that you deserve only a “9″ or a “10″ to date in China. It’s what you call social dominance – creating arbitrarily set hierarchies based, in this case, on ethnicity and/or race.
Speaking of China, Foreigners Who Think They’re Entitled to Date the Hottest Chinese
Even though all of the white people in the above stories seemed to (or may) have a delusions of grandeur in relationships to their looks and what they can rightly bank on the people of color may (or may not) be banking on what the other person wants from them: their beauty, their youth, sexual vigor. In the end is it a fair trade? Does someone always get something out of it even if the rest of the world curiiously watches and dismisses such unions?
I found the both the article and documentary interesting from a black female perspective, since it seems lately a few blogs are encouraging black women to be more like Asian women because a growing number of men are pursuing them as their ideal of a perfect woman. But I am not sure if I would want for my daughter a large number of men pursuing her on superficial grounds. I would like for a few decent men to see the real her, beyond her beauty, and know inside they have a real treasure.
And that would be a better trade than athletic swag, although if she must trade I hope she’d be smart enough to go to Tiffany’s instead.
In case you missed it, there is a movement of black women taking control of their health and getting fit.
Not getting “skinny”, not changing one eating disorder (overeating/bulimia) for another (anorexia) but learning about eating better, eating healthier and making a change.
Although we don’t want to change it up too much. Being slim is ok, but black women love, love, love their curves.
Wendy Ida proves that you can be slim and curvy at the same time.
Today is her birthday and I don’t think she minds my telling everyone that she is 61 years old.
Yes, she’s 61.
No, I’m not dyslexic, she’s not 16 she’s 61.
Yeah, that 61. Three score and one.
She looks good.
She first came to my notice when I saw her on a promo for the Jeff Probst show.
I was agog. She was 60 looking half her age. And it’s not just her look; she’s also moving better than a lot of women half her age.
And she didn’t start in her 20s or 30s, she started at 43. And she holds two Guinness World records for fitness, one for burpees. I am not going to lie, I hate burpees.
Yet, I also hate being dead… so…
If you want to hear about how she extricated herself from that relationship, click here to go to Beyond Black and White.
Again, happy birthday Mrs. Ida. You are a beacon of light for many women who feel encased in darkness. Just by being you, you are showing many women that it’s never too late to escape hell and then re-start the clock. Hell, you look like you turned back the clock.
Q.u.e.e.n by Janelle Monae and Erykah Badu.
If I have to explain this one to you about why it’s hot then you must ask yourself why you even bother to read this blog.
So I’m just going to shut up and replay the video. I suggest everyone else do the same.
What are your children doing this summer? Working at an amusement park? Playing Red Rover until the street lights come on? Sitting on the couch playing endless hours of Call of Duty while on Tumblr or Facebook.
Or maybe you have a big family trip to take.
Or, like a lot of black families, to save money on daycare you are sending your children down south or up north to spend time with family.
Whatever plans you have for your children this summer, make sure that learning is a part of it.
In a few weeks articles will start popping up about “summer learning loss“. The numbers vary, but it’s estimated that children lose a certain amount of knowledge during the summer break. It falls under the maxim if you don’t use it, you lose it.
Instead, lets look at it a different way.
In our society, we treat summer education/enrichment as a punishment instead of a privilege. Children who to summer school are children who have struggled all year. When told they must attend summer school to pass to the next grade come fall they are often made to feel lesser than other students and, of course, denied the summer break that other students.
This attitude towards learning helps to reinforce that being educated is something you must endure. It’s not a journey or something fun to pursue. Learning is a job and who likes a job.
So, at some schools, the good student isn’t immune to this disposition. They just learn how to manage it better, get their work done and then are done with it. So the summer is their long-awaited break where they won’t pick up a book or even do suggested workbook packages their teacher has assigned for them.
In the end, the child who did well in school that year isn’t doing much better if they don’t learn over the summer.
When my daughter was in grade school I realized this and I struggled to find summer enrichment programs for her. We lived in the inner city in the 90s. And many times it was hit and miss finding programs that was close to home. I didnt’ have a car then, either. We bussed it everywhere. Sometimes we walked and it was hot. But my persistence and resourcefulness has been a benefit to her. Sometimes I learned about programs that wasn’t in her age range but I filed the information away and when I ran across someone who was looking for that program I was able to give them information.
So, what I have learned, I want to pass along to you.
Here are some ways to keep your child on their toes this summer.
1) Talk to your child’s teacher or the school office. Sometimes teachers are overwhelmed and they forget to pass along information for summer learning. Sometimes your child might lose the paper, forget the paper, or throw paper away. If you talk to the teacher he/she can be a resource of information that hasn’t been passed along to you. Same for the school office. They may not have dispensed the information to the teachers but they have been given information about local summer programs. Ask them about it.
2) Check out the websites for local private/parochial schools or suburban schools. Some private prep schools offer summer enrichment courses not just for their own students but for anyone who is willing to pay. Ask them if they have scholarships available.
3) Colleges/Universities. These are under utilized because many people think that it’s just for college age students or super geniuses, but they might offer different classes and programs for children and teenagers. For teens, they might even earn college credit for some programs. Again, don’t forget to ask if they offer scholarships or have programs that are free.
4) Local parks and museums. You can find great science and art summer programs at your local parks and museums. The summer my daughter was eight she took an astronomy class with the local park near our home and then an art class at the art museum. Both classes were relatively cheap and on my limited income I was able to swing it.
5) Having fun isn’t hard if you got a library card. Ok, I am partial to the library because I work there but it’s hard to beat not just for books but also for summer programs. At my library we run a program called Brain Camp where each week children are introduced to new subjects. And best of all, it’s FREE!
6) The book “Summer Program for Kids and Teenagers”. If you are tired of having your child around the house then look for a current edition of the book I have above. There are great programs in this book that you can send your child to. Yeah, they are crazy expensive like Interlochen but a lot of them offer scholarships. My favorite program is M.I.T.E.S. for budding young scientists. And my apologies for not writing this article earlier because the deadline for a lot of the summer programs in the book was back in January/February but do what I do and file it away for next year.
If you think that I have forgotten a resource or if you know of one that is in your area please post it in the comments below. And yes, your children will be irked by you for this and, if they are like my daughter, they will be outdone when you recruit the children of friends to also participate in the program.
And next time in “Urban Mama’s” I will discuss learning styles and what’s a mother to do? Until then, keep learning.
For the last few days I have meant to give out props to the new University of Cincinnati President Santa Ono. Not just because he was officially installed as the 28th president and the first Asian American president of the University but for his recommendation of freezing tuition and selling the presidential condominium and using the proceeds to endow a student scholarship. He has also said he will not accept a bonus or salary increase for the next two years.
“Now is the time for UC to send a clear and compelling message to the broader community that our university is firmly committed to keeping costs down for our students,” President Ono informed the board. “This commitment must start with me as president.”
As a mother of two college students, one who is attending UC and the other who will attend fall semester, all I have to say is thanks dude. My husband and our bank account seconds that.